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Hi,

Don't know what I'm doing wrong.

Started to exchange messages with 3 people on this site.

None of them bothered writing back even though they messaged me first.

Seems that this Pink Sofa thing isn't as good as I thought it was.

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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I think it's lovely here, you have to give it time....says she who is too tight to subscribe at the mo....but when I do I just know I'm going to love it!

Give it time...

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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Hi

I havent repied to messages to as i havent recieved any to reply too boo i get nothing

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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true, you do have to give it time in here. kinda like people sus you out for a bit...see if your legite and that i suppose.

its not the easiest site to make friends with and chat but ya do get there eventually. hang in there.  

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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Does that mean you aren't happy anymore?

Better fix that user name... otherwise you could be accused of misrepresenting yourself.

Ps... don't expect a reply if you message me as I'm one of those basic members who never message back... I have 5 pages of unanswered messages.

Stay happy and be consistantly you... after all how many times did you fall off your bike and then get back up again because it was fun. Come on... just have fun here rather than expecting anything.
Cheers K

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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The virtual world is filled with anticipation expectation assumption and hope. People are piqued by what they read between the lines and make contact... Often what women think is after a few message exchanges not what they get to understand is their fantasy,,, thats ok!.

Its virtual messaging, ice breaking and making tenative contact with no expectations.
If there are 10-40k women on this site at a given time not getting replies from two or three is statistically minimal.
Send out a hundred and I guarantee you will make one or two really genuine conversation buddies, may even meet some one you can be sweet on and get to know some characters and lively personalities>>>>
good luck you!

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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I get heaps of messages and always reply unless.......not telling you why...lol

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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I was really pissed off when I didnt get a response to a message I'd sent to myself.

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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Often message are never even opened by the recipient - you have to wonder why such people are on the Sofa at all.

On the whole I'm disappointed with Sofa results, but now & again you get to meet some really interesting people that make it worthwhile persisting

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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,,precisely,,,i always say sth to people ,,when one replies and talk is good,, both ways,,,,,,,but not everyone thinks the same way,,,,,perhaps that should be a reference,,,or not,,,,,sometimes a message comes from the distant time to say everything is ok,,,,,,,::)),,,,don't worry,,,,keep on being happy,,,,,,,,,:)

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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Hi there

If someone initiates and we message a few times and then they stop I might send one saying "hope you are fine I did reply so if you want to keep on writing that would be cool and if not I wish you well" Anything could have happened to them and I can't and don't second guess that.

I do tend to say if I want to stop and send a polite message saying so.

Many seedlings will wilt and die in an internet connection. The strong seedlings grow into beautiful flowers of friendship. How many seeds do you need to sew to get some results? No idea really but it's fun connecting and getting to know women even if its for a short period. One day you get to know someone and then meet and you are friends although the opposite can happen as well.

In the meantime there must be at least 3900 women who you haven't messaged as yet!

jas  

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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I think the important thing is to pick profiles that you really identify with, people who have listed similar interests. If you have a lot in common, it's much more likely they will answer you.

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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No it's not the end of the world, no the sky won't fall on top of you, and no you can't have your money back.

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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I suppose I must be lucky almost all of the people I have messaged and replied to are still chatting to me. Thanks all. A few might be reading this! The previous poster was right about finding a common interest and also not having too much expectation.This site is worth the subscription I think.

Posted: 16-Apr-2010

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For business mailing letter box drops, the percentage of return is about 2%.

Translate that 2% possibility into Jasay's figure of almost 4,000 women on site & you have about 80 possibilities of some good connections! Getting interesting?

So...if you set yr goals on messaging 2 or 3 different women every night for a month, it is highly probable that you would have begun to enjoy a lovely circle of friends by month's end.

So...for one month, try messaging 2 or 3 different women each night, who have some common interests with you.

G'wan. I challenge you to act positively towards gaining the happiness you desire & deserve.

You might just be very happily surprised at the results. So - keep positive & press that send button a coupla times a night!

Even should you do so once a night for a month, you are going to gain. Or once a night for a fortnight - but start! as, by the law of averages, you can only gain!

And let us know how u go cuz we're all cheering you on!

praize xxx

Posted: 17-Apr-2010

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Off topic for a tad here (basic for now, so taking advantage of the forums) but praize .... you are truly a breath of fresh air, even if you sing hymns on sundays.

cheers
maggie

Posted: 17-Apr-2010

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Praize I love your logic! :O)

Posted: 17-Apr-2010

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i am wondering do u go into chat..i used to love goin in ther when i was a memeber now iam only basic but iam thinking bout becoming a memeber again..but some ppl take ages to reply to messages i guess its just like texting they take foreva to reply back but iam sure they will reply back to u..:-)and hello luvbeingadyke and i dont know if iam allowed to say that on here but i just did..lol..

Posted: 17-Apr-2010

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Well, I personally don't appreciate sending a message to someone on any level and it not being acknowledged at all. Yes, I appreciate we all have lives and drop in and out...

I guess being prompt in giving people a response is part of my values-personally and at work.

And, in terms of whats reasonable would depend on my history with them I suppose.

But rudeness in replying to messages gets the other no where at lightening speeds with me

Maybe i'm the arsehole lol

Posted: 17-Apr-2010

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Manners are manners and even on a site such as this it is important to have netiquette.

I remember once getting a terse.....`I already have enough people to message im not interested`

when her profile said she wanted to meet interesting women.

At least I knew where I stood and it saved me time and energy~~~Yes it is awful not getting any reply!

Posted: 17-Apr-2010