Kyandra writes

Speaking personally, I think it is both nature and nurture- but I don't beleive nurture means choice. My mum came out as gay when I was 10, before this I had only had crushes on boys, a few years later, I began having crushes exclusivly on girls. I'll never know whether Im gay becuase of a genetic thing, (nature) or whether it was environmental (nurture) or a complete coincidence unrealted to my mothers sexuality, but at the end of the day that's not relevant to me because being gay was never a conscience choice, it's just who I am.

vennywang writes

vy is very agree with savvy girly gal thinking. some case is nature some people is choice. B.....U.....T..... the most important and need to know for every person i am happy to walking in lesbian world. i am enjoy it very well. so whats we argumen about it. you happy i am happy its FINAL COUNTDOWN. LOVE IS SRANGER POWER TO MAKE THIS LIVE BETTER.

Beckett writes

I am going to agree with Ruby28 inasmuch as I don't support the "tag" system, i.e. bi, straight. Rather I do support the human disposition as sexual, and the attraction is natural, then nurtured, or not, by choice. I have been attracted and attractive to women, and males, but have always preferred intimate relationships with women.

Billy77 writes

I believe in nature........having said that though if I were to meet my current partner again in another form ie male...I actually believe I would have still fallen for her...she has an energy I have never known before......wouldn't suck cock though that's just ferral!

pantheman writes

i agree with caper_girl. someone cant be gay by choice because sexual feelings towards someone of the same gender is chemically/hormonally generated. if someone can control those things ill be amazed!

nottmchica writes

nature and choice.....I'm bi...I could have chosen to only be with men and done the whole straight thing, but I choose to be with women

greenchili writes

I totally feel I was born this way and I have a gay sibling.

Ruby28 writes

This is a very complex question and I can only answer it by saying what I truly believe. I believe that love is genderless. If you fall in love with someone, their gender shouldn't be an issue. I was with a man for seven years and we were engaged. Created out of that relationship was my beautiful seven-year-old daughter. I believe that everything happens for a reason, even if the reason isn't clear at the time or never makes itself known.
I'm a lesbian because that's who I am. I suppose it really comes down to what you value more, the journey or the destination. I value both, but it's who I am today that I value more. I don't want to live in the past.

As for a womyn choosing to be lesbian and living with adversity, we all do to some extent or another. Some more than others, but we all do. Not everyone lives their life by doing what others expect of them. Many choose to live their life as they see fit, and if there are womyn who believe that they have chosen to be a lesbian, who am

glitter writes

Nature. On the outside I am femme and as a child was a girlie girl with my dolls, dressing up, make-up, hairdressing etc. On the inside I have many 'male' traits; laziness about the home and chores, controlling, very assertive + opinionated, career orientated, useless in the kitchen, keen sense of direction, good spatial awareness. Bit of a mixed bag but it's definately all down to my own nature I think.

caper girl writes

Can someone really be gay by choice? I mean, if a woman has a bad relationship with a man and then decides to try women, what are the chances of it working out? If she isn't honestly attracted to women in the first place, it won't. Also, considering the incredible prejudice and discrimination against gay people, why would someone choose to possibly make their life harder?

I am someone who has looked at women my whole life, but went into a relationship with a man because I didn't have any exposure to other gay people and didn't realize what my attraction to women meant. The relationship with the guy ultimately tanked because I hated having him touch me and I didn't really want to be with him. I only was because I thought that was what I was supposed to do [despite having zero interest in men]. I guess you could say it was nurture working backwards. LOL

I believe I am a lesbian because of nature. I was born this way. I'm only sorry it took me so long to figure myself out. I am so m

nicxploring writes

i am not a man-hater as i know many lesbians are.i had dated a couple of males in my life time and had short relationship with them. i was just finding out if my attraction for women was merely a growing up thing. i soon find out that i couldn't lay my eyes off women when i was with the males! i started talking about women with them and these males somehow admired me more thinking that i was so liberal and open-minded , all that stuff. i find making love to women is alot more intense than with the males.women ecstasy just turn me on.

radhika writes

as we are all spiritual beings inside and have material bodies that accommodate that soul(male or female)there is scope for moving along the scale from completely straight to complety gay at anytime throughout our lives.

the important thing though, is not to lose touch with the spiritual aspect of ourselves and get too caught up on where we are on the scale.

i was married and have a beautiful 19 year old son who lives at home with me. so i have been on the straight end of the scale for part of my life (with time spent at various points on the scale at various times during the years).

at the moment though, i am definitely at the gay end of the scale. who knows where i will be in 10 years time? and who really cares?

i am a spirit soul -- not male or female. and there is more to life than being confused about who we really are.

R

sunkis writes

i am bi because of all of the above.and i studied every aspect with great depth/

writes

For me I was definitely born lesbian. It feels so deeply and instrinsically part of the way I function, the way my mind feels and responds. When puberty hit it was always always girls I was attracted to romantically, and intoxicatingly so. It is probably different for different women (with spectrums, choices etc), but there are definitely some women who are essentially and completely lesbian, and from the moment of their conception this is what they are. Nature for me.

Kathy_Y writes

As I have said before, if sexuality is a choice, then all love is a choice and there is no such thing as ´falling in love´.
Who you love at the time is who you love at that time.

ladyluck007 writes

ask yourself if you lived in a world where nobody was expected to be a "girl" or a "boy", what would everyone be like? then close your eyes, clear your mind, think of sex.....what comes to you? that´s your answer.

babylove666 writes

i think everyone is born bi sexual and as they get on with life they pick a sex and stick to it or go between both

rosie1975 writes

fell in love at 4, with my best friend. by 6, i was over her.
when i was 14, i told said best friend i was gay.
she disappeared sharpish - we never talked about it again.
found out last year she´s a lesbian.
always thought we were ´different´ from the other girls.
put it down to us being bright,
or autonomous,
or stubborn.
We were all of these things, but we were also lesbians.
even before sex came into it, we were queer.
i was queer 10 generations back.
and thank god, because i get to kiss girls!!

writes

well i have been reading all the postings and i can´t say that much of it holds true for me.

deep down i think i am probably bi. when i was young i always liked boys, had my first crush at six with a boy in my class and there was kissing and hugging and sleeping in each other´s arms. and at seven had my first sexual experiences with my best friend´s little brother, and both were great (until my best mate told on me and and her brother! got caught by his mother and Boy did she Yell!) think that one traumatised me for life.

i kept liking only boys until fifteen (and i really really liked them) - but i did start to dream about women. but i was never good looking, and i learned that all boys care about is girls with looks and having their egos massaged by someone willing to defer to them and giggle at their jokes. something i just wasnt gonna do (tho i did expermiment with it once and i suddenly became really popular with boys! weirdsville! just pretend you´

GoodHands989 writes

I have always known that I was different from my other sisters, espically my twin sister. I have always had big shoulder and a deep voice. My apperances is one mascline with a dash of femininity thrown in. I feel for me to be any other way would have been so devasting to my personality, my self-esteem would not be where it is today. I am both of source of both nature and nurturing for it was mt mother that told me " you can not hide from yourself no matter how hard you try. : )

nallie1 writes

I had to go all the way to Europe on holidays to find the love of my life and wow it was a woman. I had my daughter with me and when I got home my friends thought it was a lark little did we all know I fell in love with her and we lived together on and off as she was based in another state. I thought it was me not being a pure lesbian that we had problems but I know now after moving lock stock and barrel (sold house etc)to be with her that she had mental problems from child hood god what a shame because my heart still partly is for her. I need to move on and the pink sofa is a great site I have had a relationship since but my heart is not mended yet but I so enjoy the friends I am making and feel so at ease with my decision.

sticky writes

I´ve only just admitted to myself that i fancy woman. This is totally new to me. I havn´t told many people about the way i feel but i have experienced some nasty comments. It got me down for ages until i realised that there only jealous. I admitted something that they felt too. I want to find someone to love and i´ll keep trying till i get there. No matter what. x

writes

Orientation vs Preference = Nature vs Nurture

writes

I seriously believe we are all a product of our enviorment. There are more and more people coming out with this issue and I think it opens peoples minds. I started liking girls when I was young. I happened to come across the P-boy channel and I couldent believe what I saw. It seemed exciting so I found myself fanticizing about what I saw and It went on from there. People love to try new stuff its a rush!!! I also believe that alot of abused woman find other woman for companionship because they have had too many bad expieriences with men. Woman are more emotional and gentle and thats comforting.

writes

I just fell in love with a woman...the rest is a mystery to me.

anonymous writes

believe it to be nature for me, however, growing up I didnt know any lesbians, although my first encounter with another girl was at 14, I thought we were just weird..

I then followed the path that all the women in my family followed before me and married etc, however throughout my entire marriage I knew I was attracted to women..

Then I made a choice about my lifestyle and Im so glad I did..been a lesbian for many years now and can never consider any other option really. Just a pity I didnt learn what its like to really be IN love until now...ah well..live and learn eh?

Diamondflame writes

Personally I don´t like the lesbian and bi labels. I believe that a person should be attracted to and should fall in love with whomever they want and gender shouldn´t be a factor. For me personally the only people i´ve been attracted to are girls so i guess I fall in the lesbian category. But there are no rules in love, no science in love either. It just is.

Nalia1 writes

I believe a soul has no gender and my sexuality reflects this. However, after 12 years with a man I think I will put them all on the back shelf for good! Its been a lone time since I had a relationship with a woman so here goes I´m going to enjoy single life with women only!!!

surfin_freak writes

Happy Lesbians....

yes, i live in berlin,capital of germany and capital of happy lesbians!!! that´s a paradise ...i can go hand in hand with my girlfriend(if i would have one) and it´s absolut no problem...and we have so many lesbian/gay clubs and u can go out and meet women...u can flirt on the streets....everday...anytime...i am happy to live free!i am what i am !
(sorry for my english,i try to learn it better-help me!)

tazgurl writes

hi i am 16 going on 17 in january an i am bisexual, i believe that i was born this way because like SOME(notall) girls choose to be gay because a man has broken their heart an self esteem an they think girls are different. i thought i was all lesbian until about uhh 8th grade when i started having feelings for boys an didnt understand why because i made it clear to myself i was gay. i tried it didnt like it that much but still find some guys physically attractive and my boyfriend, well i love him more than anything an nothing can change that. he knows im like this an did not like it at all at first cuz he´s religiouse but loved me anyway. this is my nature ive always been like this since third grade didnt fully understand my feelings until 5thgrade though when i actually tried something with a girl playing big people house! where one of us was the mom or dad an i was the dad most the time, but i moved an hadnt said a thing to anybody about my sexuality until 10th grade, when i to

AND100 writes

I have already written that is "nature not nurture" but I also think that it is everyone, it just takes the right person to bring it to the surface.

This has happened to me on more than one occasion, where straight woman have come on to me and said that they would never have given it a second thought if they had not met me, I have quite good relationships from these encounters.

I believe you cannot "chose" who you fall in love with and that love knows no boundaries.

writes

well i must say it wasnt nature or nurture for me....just good fashioned freedom of "CHOICE"
i went out one night clubbing with my ´straight´ friends, was picked up by a woman (in a straight bar i might add) she took me home and the next morning i chose to be a lesbain.....i said to myself that was fantastic, went straight home and told mum and dad...
i havent looked back since....

writes

ive never thought about the whys, both my perants r straight religious freeks. they dont know im bi and they prob will never know. i didnt always know i was bi but ive never been into lads like my friends, never been in love with the posters and the ´gareth gates´ of my childhood, although genetics and life style can affect u, i do think its out of personal choice. or should i say its a case of what gets u off!

Ms Megabyte writes

I was always led to believe that one was born the way they are, but who knows? I think I was born bi-sexual.

writes

I just know that in my heart, I am bi, no matter what, I can not change this about myself. I have dealt with this years ago. I believe this is nature for me personally.

gin girl writes

now here is a thought.. (and NO its not me!!) i know a girl, who has both parents that are now ´out´... and she is gay.. is that because she grew up in a ´gay´ environment or because she inherited ´gay´ genetics...??? or is she the product of both??
well anyway.. enough stories... while my mother still thinks I´m going throught a phase... sadly I´m not!! I have learnt to love who I am, and what I am... and that is just me!! I just happen to have a GF rather than a BF.. and while yes that is a choice.. its one that my body made, rather than my head!! To be honest I wouldn´t choose to make my life harder my adding another thing about me that is ´different´ but seeing as i didn´t chose my sexuality - it chose me... I am what I am!! I don´t think there is a choice.. you are what you are!!

Kathy_Y writes

How do you define love? and in defining what love IS, aren´t we also defining what love isn´t??

More definitions = more boundaries

Olivia6 writes

Damn these labels! I hate them, but where would we be without them....

I think I was born this way, but it took a long time for me to get over my "I must like boys I must like boys!" mantra that was drummed into my head.

Then one day I just said "dang it, I like girls" (and boys are sometimes ok).

Then I struggled for years with the whole mono thing, it seemed as if the whole world was telling me I had to be mono to really love someone, then I just thought, "dang it, I am capable of true love, with MORE than one person", and I embraced being poly :o)

Every day people tell me I am wrong by their definition, and thats ok with me, I feel right, I dont need to justify myself anymore.

Olivia~ a pansexual, polyamorous, fun to be with, human.

satyrgirl writes

I think that everyone is born with the capacity to be attracted to all different kinds of people (I´m trying not to gender dichotomize here). This is not to say that there people have definite biological predispositions towards one end of the spectrum. Yet fundamentally I think that our preferences for gender are like our preferences for skin color, hight, or ethnic origin. They are formed in very large part by what are we what we learn and what we are taught is beautiful, desierable, and sexy.

lesbianluv writes

~nature takes me away.~to a place some say...~"it´s not normal or right".~how could this be?~i´ve been blessed with an angel.~blonde,blue eyed,and skin as soft as a caress from a rose petal along the side of my face.~that´s all i have to say is...~i give praise each and every day.~if i´m not "normal" and it´s "wrong"...~then to hell i go cause i don´t and won´t ever want to be "right"!!!
lesbian by nature,i took it in w/ great depths of nuture,unless you´re in my shoes,you´ll never get the picture.
peace and lesbian love to my "family"!

writes

Some people are born exclusively gay, some aren´t....look at the Kinsey scale of Sexuality, it flows, its not black and white but has grey areas, and anywhere on that scale we may sit comfortably. For those on here that write the word "we" instead of "I" please refrain from it. Do accept that for some of us, there is a natural inclination to lean strongly and intrinsically toward our "gayness", that for some of us it was natural from a young age. As I would accept that for some of you, it was not...

SaVvY_GiRLy_GaL writes

Farout.. I could go on about this forever! LOL! When I go out, I get into the most deepest conversations with various people about this topic. I feel so much on this so will try and keep this to a minimum. Anyone who´s read my profile will know that i have trouble in doing so..

I think its different for the individual. I believe some people are born gay, others are open to the thought of being with someone of the same sex, others use it as a form of escape - a coping mechanism. I could go on..

I dont think that there is a blanket rule for everyone and I am also a true believer that love crosses all boundaries. If two souls cross paths and have an unbelievable connection, one that is pure and real, colour/race/gender/etc doesnt matter anymore as a connection of any substance and depth will go beyond what is tangable.

maz414 writes

nature for me........i guess the key is .....if there is one....... how we nurture our nature!!!

poetgirl writes

I was nasty to my nature
Coz I didn´t want to know
Then I nurtured my nature
And a lesbian rose did grow.

Born, not made. But if they ever Do find out what causes it, they´ll simultaneously find out how to prevent it, so we could be a dying breed. Sappho would turn in her grave :)

"Gay by nature, proud by choice." Poetgirl x

writes

According to my mother..Its just a phase!!!

writes

Hmmm...nature for me. I was not in any type of environment that would have encouraged or driven my homosexuality. I can be physically attracted to both sexes (not in terms of wanting sex with guys, but in being able to appreciate their attractiveness), but only romantically attracted to females. Yeah I was with a man for 22 years, but was there romance? No. I only loved him as a person. But then..I love lots of people. Did this contribute to ending the marriage? Probably. My life lesson from that? Just be what I am. It doesn´t matter how or why. But ultimately, it comes from inside and not my environment.

anonymous writes

I also can´t say that I was born a lesbian......I had never even thought about it until a particular woman entered my life. I do have to wonder however if my experiences of abuse at the hands of a man may have had some impact on the depth of my feelings of being insecure and unsafe with men. I can´t say that it was only my abuse that led to me becoming a lesbian but i do wonder.

anonymous writes

Well you know nurture doesn´t necessarily mean choice. We can´t decide or really have a lot of choice how we develop in many areas of our lives. I dont think anybody really knows how anyone or anything becomes eroticised for anybody. So in other words, I dont think we are born gay just because our earliest memories make us believe we must have been. I dont think we choose to be either, I think our sexuality develops and possibility at a very early age and includes many factors, none of which we reallychose to have.

writes

Nature, most defintely nature for me. The familial, hetero and societal nuturing wasn´t something that was going to change who I was going to be. At the end of the day, choices were being made, but only as a result of nature!

Cordial writes

I think it´s a mixture of both nature and nuture.
I don´t believe anyone can be made to be gay, and I think it´s probably in most of us, but whether we chose to explore that or not is a different matter. I think it´s far easier for girls than guys to explore it.It´s also easier for girls to be ´out´in my experiences.

I never had any real thoughts about my sexuality, it´s just kinda happened ... Being around a lot of gay guys from my teens and then going out to gay clubs and meeting girls triggered it all off, if that hadn´t of happened who knows, I may have married and had 2.4 children!

I hate labels and refuse to label anyone .. we are who we are and people should learn to deal with their own issues before shouting about others! ... rant over :)))

Kathy_Y writes

Put it this way, if homosexuality is a consious choice, then heterosexuality MUST also be a consious choice. For if sexuality is a choice, then all love is a choice and there is no such thing as ´falling in love´ or ´love at first sight´ without a rational explanation.

Homosexuality and transsexuality like intersexuality is primarilly nature with very little nurture, but mostly nature, for who would choose to purposely make themselves a target of negativity (in it various and dangerous forms), risk losing family, friends, jobs, etc.

dj0003 writes

Hey there
definately nature for me, i am what i am.

i certainly didn´t choose to put myself thru the so called "taboo" of the 70-80´s etc. what a hell those years were at school.....

but i did hang in there, even though it took til the more supportive 00´s, i am now out to family & friends(what a weight of my shoulders) & more secure & happy than ever before.

my first crush sealed it for me, she was my grade 3 teacher (but get this aaargh she was a nun!!!) lmao now though!

so go for it grrls, be happy & look after #1
dj xo ;-)

writes

well i know for me it was not a choice, My very first crush was in grade 2. I just could not stop thinking of this blonde headed grrl in my class. Then every year after that i had different crushes on different grrrls. I would have been 6 years old in year 2 and to never dream of a boy that is not a choice. It was nature for me.

writes

well scientists claim it is now a genetic disposition ....hmmmmmmm wonder who´s side of the family i get it from....
choice ? well does a het choose to be a het ? Bi sexual choose to be bisexual ? does a lesbian or homosexual choose to be lesbian or homosexual ?
I would have to wonder why someone would choose a way of life and a sexuality that is considered "not normal" and why someone would choose to endure as others before us have the discrimination and violence which is in fact still valid to todays argument.....

For myself... i did not choose to be a lesbian i just am. I have always since i can remember when been attracted to women. I do not find men appealing in either the physical sense nor the emotional. I do not hate men i just do not relate to them. They for me are like the days of the week.... they are just there.

Being a lesbian though is only a small part of who i am as a person. There is so much more to me than just who i sexually and emotionally relate to.

Downsouth writes

I firmly believe that there is a continuum in human sexuality from the fluffy pink het woman and the oh-so-macho het male, to the pumped butch dyke and the one-of-the-girls gay boys. Yes, these are stereotypes, which of course do exist, but there are so many more people who fall in-between. In my opinion this is the way you are born, purely Nature.

For some luckies, they know from an early age where they fit. Nature rules! For many others, definitely including myself, nuture plays a big part, too big a part - you can´t learn to be gay, or choose to be gay, but you can learn to ignore being gay (often with sad results) because of your upbringing or peer pressure or whatever. If you are one of the wonderful women who ignored the taunts and negativities as a youngster, more power to you. I am so envious.

Others, like myself, needed to mature and become more secure with oneself before developing the strength/skills to suppress nurture and allowing Nature to take her cours

writes

I have no idea … I can’t say I was born a lesbian at all ... In fact I never even gave it a second thought until just recently (at the tender age of 37) .. I suppose till then I just cruised through life doing what was expected of me, basically playing the game to everyone else’s rules. It wasn’t until I went through a process of getting to really know myself that my true feelings and being were uncovered. So maybe I can say I was re-born a lesbian and can happily say that nothing has ever felt more natural!

yeah yeah writes

well I have to wonder. Folks say that gays had a choice .. does that mean that everyone else in the world chose to be het? I mean I have never read any coming out stories about hets.. and I am sure SOMEONE would have written something just one poem, short story, limrick even (haiku? perhaps) but no we don´t have any stories. Do you think that that is because they are all embarrassed about chosing to be het maybe.

remi writes

definitely nature...had feelings for grrls from a VERY young age and I don´t think it was as much denial as it was not being ready to take ME out into the world or come out to the world until I was 21, so I agree that its about being true to yourself, to something that is always there in you, and that you´ll deal with when your good and ready.

dated a lot of men and didn´t necessarily have bad experiences but having my first girlfrind was like coming home and coming out such a wave of relief that you "just know" you´re doing the right thing for you - I don´t think thats something you can learn - I think its inherent.

I was told by me (very frank) sister that since coming out I´ve "stopped being such a tryhard" - ha ha, shes right though - this is the way NATURE intended me!

Besides like the previous writer said - who in their right mind would want all the prejudice and sideways glances if there wasn´t a greater cause...... our happin

tory_au2000 writes

:):) esse that´s a classic re the fish pond ....brings back memories of when I was 5 on my birthday....my mother dressed moi in a pretty pink dress and went to great lengths to curl the hair :-P....was very uncomfortable to say the least...but my eyes were dialted like a cat has just spotted a mouse when my father walked over and gave me a plastic machine gun as a presenta;0
I was Born Gay and very proud :):)

AND100 writes

Nature, definately. You cannot chose who you want to be, to do that you are just denying who you truly are. People who do not admit to themselves who they are will lead sad unfulfilled lives, by trying to conform to how everyone else thinks they should be.

I knew I was gay from an early age but did the hetro thing from 16 - 18 years, I then slept with my first girlfriend and never looked back. I can honestly say that if I had slept with a woman first, men just would not have got a look in.

esse writes

Well I guess my crushes were always on women teachers and my friends older sisters and if I look at all the old photos of me I always looked unhappy and unkempt in a dress. I can remember my mum dressing me in a beautiful blue dress for a 5 year old birthday party and cause she made me wear it I decided to start a 5 year old competition of "who can jump over the fish pond the best" - without fail I ended up in the water and had to go home and get changed into suitable play clothes. I always broke boundaries and started the first girls soccer team at my all girls school and fought to be the first "prop girl" at the school musicals and when we moved to the country I was the first girl to ride a potty calf in the local rodeo - parents "not happy jan!"....so I guess I tried as a young person to conform but always wore jeans or pants of some description. I´ve was married 3 times until I finally decided to let go of what other people expected of me and to just be me - and that means

question_chick writes

I have always had feelings for women, my earliest crushes were on women and all the crushes beyond that have been on women.

But then again I have had nothing but bad experiances with men, right from day 1.

who knows? all I know is that I am happy with who I am and what sex I like

writes

Well, the nature nurture debate has been going on for ages...and usually the outcome is that it´s a combination of both, but I dont´ really know in the case of being gay, doesn´t really fit! I have always been aware that I liked girls/women but thought it was bad and didn´t ever tell anyone until ´coming out´(which wasnt´a specificly big issue for me)at which point I told my Mum who totally understood. I think perhaps we have a possible nature issue...that´s me though! RM

summersday writes

I feel that I identify with an above writer wearing a dress at primary shcool age I was referred to as "the looking like a boy in a dress"
I also wanted to play rugby with the boys and the teacher offered me if I wanted to wear grey shorts and shirt I could
I think I probably took her up on that one
smile
yes I am gay
summersday

MusicLover writes

As my colleague once put it: "Why would anyone choose to live as an indivual who is almost always going to be ostracised from some part of society or who is almost always going to have to - by force of a small but strong right-wing paradigm - forgo a civil right?"
I think you choose to either be true to yourself or deny your true self.

aussieone writes

Oops, should have re-read my post... was supposed to say "didn´t come out to others till much later."

chainedtofate writes

Ah the never ending nature vs nurture debate.
Its partly a maturation thing isn´it?
"Maturation- the orderly sequence of changes dictated by the genetic blueprint we each have: just as a sunflower grows in an orderly way- unless flattened by an unfriendly environment - so does a human being" (Santrock)

aussieone writes

I would definitely say with me in particular it´s nature.
I can remember having my first crush on a girl when I was 8 years old, I hated wearing dresses and I used to be bored sh**less listening to the whisperings of school friends about which guys they fancied....so yep, from a very early age I was ´different´ and came out to myself in my early teens.....didn´t come to other till much later though.

writes

Well I dunno if I was just lucky or if I´ve gone and made really a good choice.

Was pretty andro even at two tho´, and I always looked unhappy in pics where I´m in a dress and damned laid back and comfy where I´m in shorts and a t-shirt. :)

writes

Personally, I believe I was born a lesbian.I have very earlier memories of having feelings for women. I also think that "coming out" was my decision and a very tough but rewarding one. So, it was through choice that I decided to be honest with myself and the world and be open about my sexuality and be with women. For nearly 30 years I was a lesbian living a "het" life with men. I am glad I don´t do that anymore.

jemkat writes

I think that my sexuality was not a choice. When people say to me that gay people have a choice of being gay, i disagree. I believe that people have a choice of whether they admit they are gay to themselves and to others (whether they come out or not).
I know that i could never be anything but a lesbian, i have only ever been with women (by choice), and feel quite repulsed about the whole straight sex thing.

I am happy that i was able to come out and am proud that i am a lesbian.
I know that i have always sat like a ´typical´ dyke, as i can remember being told off by my Mum when i was 4, for sitting that way at the doctors office in a skirt.
Also when i was three my friends used to tickle me a lot, as i used try to hug and kiss them all the time.

I´m just happy with who i am, and glad that i came out at the tender age of 18!
Kat