Muppeteer writes

Well i always try and be friendly to people who's profile I like but often get "a youre a bit too far away"...even for meeting as friends...Or some smile back, messgae then disappear into thin air.
I be someone's friend first of all or try but often dont get nice friendly messgaes back..

justchangin writes

i don't think it is just a case of seeking it. i think it is more about being open to it. live life how you like to and fate will ensure you get an opportunity.
I do think though you need to venture out into the big beautiful world. chances of love knocking on your door are slim but i would hate to totally negate that ideal.

Silverdragon32 writes

I think you need to get out there and meet people, not necessarily looking for that special girl but you will never meet her sitting on the couch at home. By getting out there you make alot of friends and the chances of meeting someone gets better every day.

gowiththeflow writes

If the love is in your heart and you love yourself (not in a vain/egotistical way)then it can only come to you. I don't think you can find love sitting at home watching the TV!

procknet writes

i cant stand this question because sometimes when you put yourself out there..you get what you want. and other times when you just sit back and let things happen, you fall short. so its so hard to pick which one will work for each person.

katgirl64 writes

Still Looking For That Special One that makes me want to sing from the mountain tops...

Tilda writes

Yeah.It falls in my lap.Its usually been just around the corner.....while Ive been looking....Tilda

sportyrae writes

That is the question I have been asking myself for 6 months now and I think I'm now realizing the answer, after looking for love all this time, let it fall into your lap!!

suesue writes

No you don't, we all want it, we all look for it, we all enjoy it when we have it and we cry when we have lost it! What is love anyway? It means different things to different people! Hey I know what it means to me and thats what keeps me going, one day I will find it!!

Fuschia47 writes

The only times I've fallen in love is when I wasn't looking. Had to hit me smack in the face

painted writes

you may find love but it might not be the right kinda love

babygurl22 writes

well, i have fallen in love. and u cant look for it. it just happens. she is just walking down the street, u look up, and something catches ur attention. after that..if it meant to be, u'll find each other.

Tippie writes

I have never gone looking for love .. always had the philosophy that if it is going to happen ... it will in it's own good time and place. Then again I really don't mind being on my own ...

bell writes

that elusive cupid? luv comes & goes, when it will hit, no body knows. But I must say it is nice mmmmmmmmm wonderful while it lasts. I am looking forward to that next elusive arrow!

cadgie writes

keep looking theres someone out there for everyone would be nice if love just fell on to your lap but life just isent like that!!more fun serching anyway!!!

Kathy_Y writes

If you think love will fall into your lap, that would be lucky... it could miss your lap completely, and end up a kind of squelchy mess on the floor beside you.

zenner writes

I honestly believe you got to seek it, be ready for it and open to wonderful things happenning

MovesInSilence writes

Yeah i also would love it to fall into my lap, but i think it's falling from pretty high up because i haven't found it yet or i stepped to one side thinking it was something else :)

Fingers crossed i will find her or she will find me :)

Bels writes

I wish it would fall in my lap but i hate waiting - prefere to go looking - more the merrier and all that. Life is for the taking not watching

solshine writes

I havent ever found love when I was really looking for it, I have found love when i wasnt, but that never worked out so what now? Do I start looking, Im single again for the 1st time in 5 yrs and I think Im ok with that. I will repeat that............."think" lol

TerriModo writes

Looking for love is so frustrating - and I think it shows :-)

Giving up looking is the best thing - as it found me rather than me finding it - and she is beautiful!

onion writes

When I'm getting interested of someone, she'll find quite soon her "real love" which is not me, of course!
Sometimes when I have talked a lot with someone in the internet, in the phone and we are looking forward to see each other (and there is some interest in the air)... then suddenly the other person appears into picture...
This is really very frustrating... :(

Gobelle writes

I know that I found love, when I wasn't looking at it. SHe is the light of my life, but I needed to be ready, and then whammo

Star Mayfair writes

Love is ...... the shuddering of the earth when the hooves of a hundred horses are galloping upon an open field ..... Love is as much or as little as you want it to be .... Love is ...... that which is found where you were not looking!

Summer writes

Everytime I have been in love, I haven't been looking for it. Yep just fell into my lap, but I must have been ready for it :-)))

Aint it a beautiful feeling?

babyjay writes

if love falls in to my lap then let it be?

babyjay writes

i don,t find love love finds me!!!!

insidemysoul writes

Well, personal experience would be for it fall in your lap, as of late I put my ad up as a joke and maybe because I thought it was time to meet mrs right, and I thought I did, so i pursued and got scared, reached a million emotions.in 2.5 sec never thought it would ever happen to me....but as quick as It came......It left, so yeah .....let if fall in your lap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!cmon BABY , I've got strong arms to catch you, and a heart of gold to give, tender lips to kiss u .....................are you ready to live?

lunamtl writes

There's looking, and then there's LOOKING. I don't believe in interviewing lovers like interviewing for jobs.... but if you don't put yourself out there at all, best get a few cats now to keep you company. That said, I also believe in "letting things happen". Pushing the love envelope can bring disaster. Forcing a relationship on someone (incl. yourself) is not the best way to go. Conclusion: be seen, express interest, make a date, and let things happen (or not). Philosophy in a nutshell 101. :) Good luck ladies, hope you all find Ms.Right-for-you.

tasha- writes

it's always better when something falls into your lap......unexpected,exciting,new adventure.....someone at a chance meeting that sweeps you away.More perfect than if you were looking for it yourself.

tammy17 writes

love is where you find it,but sometimes it grabs you by the horns and there you go.And yes it better when it comes to you,dont look for it waite for it that is always the better way to find it tammy 17

MrandMrsGreen writes

I've just come out...well about 6 months ago. I'm not necessarily looking for something serious because I've been married and was with him for a long time. I tell you what though, it's like I've entered a massive chocolate shop...so many distractions! I think you have to be happy with yourself first and then love will happen when it's meant to.

Vinylpusher writes

I think there have been a few valid points that have come out of this. what Rachel27 said is the key element, to be happy within yourself and what you have first. When this happens you project this amazing energy and people become drawn to it naturally. I think the key is working out who you are, what you want from life, being able to find happiness on your own and that special person will come along and complete the very final aspect of your life. This always seems to happen to me when I am in a good place within myself and I get to a point where I am enjoying my single life and then bang, some one amazing walks along. I think its because when you are happy on your own, your don't just jump into anything that comes along, you actually can feel the person that has fallen into your lap is some one who is going to enrich your already happy life even more. I took a big break from dating women and getting myself into a happy place again after my last relationship. When I knew I was read

Vortex33 writes

As long as you dont seek...while your in a committed relationship..I was in a married relationship for 3 years...My X was on line for 6 months seeking a new lover, while I was still in the house.....She couldnt stand being single...even for a week...I dont go looking for it...as love seems to come to me..

Rachel27 writes

I think it's probably best to let it happen without looking for it. My ex recently ended our relationship & I think it was, in part, because of my being needy. I didn't even realize I was. I wanted to be in love so badly that I seemed to be wearing blinders. The hurt from this break-up has made me realize I need to find happiness within myself before I can find it with someone else. It's ok to need a person, but to be needy is something else. I have to learn the difference by starting out with friendship first then whatever may happen from there should be in the stars!

Rube writes

I think it's difficult, because when you're looking, it might feel desperate, and therefore comes across in that way. You might be looking speculatively (in a not too bothered way), which is cool, and more relaxed.
It depends what you're after really, if you want a relationship, I think that the best way (as Z9Girl says), is to let friendship blossom. If you're not looking for a long term relationship, then I think anything goes! Love away!

Sincere writes

looking for love somehow makes you needy, non needy people tend to have an inner happiness that shows and draws people to themselves, allowing love to grow more natrually

Tofugirl writes

Have decided to recruit my own P*ssy Posse.
Enlist now & lasso your next Lover!
We know they are out there, just gotta hunt'em down & drag'em back into our lairs.
And if you join the ranks now -you get a FREE seal kit for your heart!!

Kathy_Y writes

I think there can be a trap to appear as though you are not looking, when in fact you are... I wonder if some women have an 'expectation' of finding someone - and the consious not looking as a strategy as part of that expectation...

As for me, I am about to turn 41, I have had only one real relationship in my life, and I think that that is my lot - I expect to be (whether I like it or not) single to the grave. I don't even socialise much - I'm struggling to see the point of it...

girl_jazz writes

I've always found that when you're looking for it, it doesn't happen.

Just take it easy, have fun and see what evolves from it.

Alaanis writes

Speak up to the Universe and ask for what you want. If words really come from the bottom of your heart... get ready to love, but don't forget that you are claiming for the greatest force in Universe.
I did it once and it worked, the relationship didn't work out 'cause our lives weren't ready yet but was a love that will always be part of me.

Shutter70 writes

Don't look. It's a bit restricting when you size everyone up as a potential partner. Relax I think, go out and make friends. Maybe a friendship will blossum into something deeper. You gotta be friends first anyway. Well, unless you're looking for one night things of course.

de_austin writes

It's best to just let it fall into your lap. It's no use for love to be a spontaneous thing for one or the other. If it's something new and unexpected by both parties, the odds of the excitement of a new relationship and wanting to know even more about that person rises. Course it could be the same when looking, but I find that looking harder makes finding harder. Go with the flow! The flow will go full circle somewhere down the line and sweep you off your feet on its way around.