bighair01 writes

people take one another for granted after so long together someone new comes along it wakes you up they make you feel alive again ....for a while that is, then you realise you had it all along u just wernt looking or listening,
half the time its just escapism from this crazy world............its sounds like im the cheater but im not it was my partner of 9 years

gangsta90 writes

cheating the most regretful and hurtful thing people could do to one another im guilty of it i have to admit. im an idiot for doing it. but whatevr happens u learn from your mistakes eventually and ive learned from mine

louisa_two writes

Cruel,hurtful and sooooo not worth wasting time,tears or energy over!!!!!

Greengal55 writes

Coz they are total wankers!

JULZ66 writes

I was with well i thought the most wonderful loving lady i could ever meet, together for 3 years till one day my best mate told me that my partner was having an affair with her own ex. I felt every emotion around. When she came home from work i asked her straight out is it true, was she having sex with her ex. She stated yes and i asked her why would she do something like that, did i not give her what she needed that she had to go looking someplace else. She stated it just happened, but the thing is it was just happening for 3 months, and this blind bitch did not see or suspect a thing. I asked her there and then to pack her gear and go. Which she did. I could not ever forgive her for what she did. You do not cheat under any circumstance. There is no excuse for it. It is unforgivable.

Tina58 writes

Why is she doing this to me.
She flirts and states shes not. Then I get angry and yes, I have been nasty to her, when under the influence. No excuse. But now we are having a short break and shes moved out so I can find myself and some friends. So what appens... I find on PS a profile with a code we have and guess what, shes single. How do you think I feel.

new moon writes

hmm I don't know. When I asked my ex why she did it, she couldn't give me a reason. All I got was that she didn't think she would get caught !!

But no matter what the reason, it will never be good a enough reason to put somebody through all the hurt that it causes.

If you want to be with somebody else dump the other person first !!!

elaine1014 writes

I admit, I cheated one time, when I was much younger, I did it for the excitment, the rush of maybe getting caught. I didn't want to settle down with one person. You feel smothered. The old cat and mouse game, can I get this person, etc: I think it depends on the person. Does each person in the relationship have the same expectations? Is there the understanding, this is not forever. Maybe in some cases, the other person expected more. It happened to me.

iamsweetas writes

it just sux either way you look at it.

softgrl writes

Good question. Personally i agree with just bout all that has been written above. Most i think cheat because it can add excitment to a steady, secure but prodictable relationship. Some because they can. Some because they think they won't get caught. Some because the grass is greener! Some to escape realism!!! Lots of different reasons. If you've never cheated on a partner don't. If you have you can guarentee you hurt somebody, including yourself!

morvern writes

what is worse....
a)cheating on someone physically?
b)cheating on someone mentally?

kitcat22 writes

boredom, and i think people want their cake and eat it too

Dizzy writes

Could it simply be that for some reason there sexual needs are not being met, and although they are happy and fulfilled in all the other areas of there lives, the sex part is missing, eg LBD.

I think when people cheat,its always easy to sum up why, and you need to look at each situation and circumstance on its own merit, to be able to make a valid decision.

iamsweetas writes

i hate cheating!!!!!!!!!!!!

iamsweetas writes

its bad and it hurts heaps!

Juls no E writes

I once read somewhere and 2 points to consider- how often do we see our loved ones as if they are the fulfillment of our dreams? Generally people are seeking relief from unhappiness or low self-esteem when they tend to wander.

w11thwund writes

They are afraid to be honest and afraid to accept themselves. They cannot ask for their needs to be met, because of this.

raen writes

Lately I've been investigating Sex & Love Addiciton. This point of view suggests that people cheat out of a deep seated need for external validation. These people mostly feel valued through others showing them sexual and/or romantic attention.

Alongside this runs fear of genuine intimacy; the sort that requires absolute willingness to be vulnerable (and experience others' vulnerability).

Hence, they hop from one person to another...

Z9Girl writes

There are lots of scenarios. Some people want out of a relationship but don't have the guts, so cheat to end the relationship. I know, that's a weird one. Other's lust from one person to the next and really should wake up and choose non-monogamy and be upfront about it. For others, the sexual spark can decline and one or both are sexually frustrated and eventually give in to another attraction. Others still have avoidant tendencies and when the going gets tough as they say.... Some people develop a crush or sometimes fall for someone else and eventually give in to it. And then there are the serial relationship types who hop from one relationship to another with a slight overlap between. These people have probably not been single since they were 15 years old.

riocolorado writes

sometimes people cheat because they can ..other times its because they dont respect the commintment they are in... they can also be tempted into having an affair or fling with someone...i think even in the best of relationship temptation can happen...yes no relationship is perfect..but its what you do that matter..you have to be able to walk away..communication breakdowns disolution by your partner lack of interest in you can be major factors that cause cheating..either way its an ugly road that leads to someone getting hurt..

mskf_1 writes

people cheat because people can. some people find it easier to cheat then to take responsibility for ending a relationship (which lets face it can be one of the hardest things a person can do).if only we would realise that cheating solves nothing and only creates more crap.

blueberry101 writes

because they have outgrown each other and are looking for a way out.

lysa writes

I think people cheat on each other because some people would rather be with some one the dont really want than to be alone.

jaydee72 writes

I think people cheating on each other can be symptomatic of problems in the relationship but for the life of me I don't see how cheating on your partner can possibly improve things! It's easy to say you were driven to it by your partner's lack of responsiveness, their inattention or any other reason you may care to think of. However you do have a choice: you can stay and work on it or end it amicably rather than cheating and therefore creating a situation that requires a drastic and often messy end.

saashablue writes

because they lose touch with each other.... they each take on different priorities and every day the other person gets that little further away....at first they dont notice and then suddenly its too late.... a relationship cycle just like a stockmarket cycle