Lenanshee writes

Well I had an amazing freindship with a girl I went to Tafe with breifly in 2005 then we met up again in 2007 accidently in town.

We spent sometime together and everything was very fresh and lot's of laughs and cuddles. We began dating and became the bestest of friends as well as lovers. However. After a few months, the fight's and arguments began and were really mean and unproductive. We spent 2 years of an on again/off again relationship. VERY MUCH IN LOVE all the time, just we clashed at the most deepest core of our own personal values and soul's.

We lost something so major and important to both of us, broke our hearts beyond repair. We tried for a further year of love and just as it seemed to blossom into something SO SPECIAL it discintigrated and wound up in a pile of dusty ashes.

We remained friends for a while, but only seldomly did we get along yet again.
We agreed on space and time to ourselves. Then she found someone nice and a good person and fell in love ( knowing in her heart our love would never provide either of us with enough stability to be for ever)

I had the most romantic dreams, of her asking for my hand in marriage and sharing forever with her, a deep and wonderful lifes journey together.

I felt too that it had gone on long enough and didn't love her in 'that way' anymore, but wanted her to be happy.

I saw her and her new partner at the library in passing. I saw how happy and in love my ex was. A look I hadn't seen in well over 1 and a half years.

I told her I wouldn't trade our memories for the world and I'm so glad she is happy. Also that I got to see that glimmer of happiness in her eyes even if it was with another person. She deserved that and was a wonderful, good person. and her new partner is really nice and kind to her :)

So our agreed time apart ended indefinatley. LOL!

For me, It feels that it has gone full circle, she wasn't there, then she was my freind, my best freind and my lover, my soul mate and partner, my freind then, she's not there anymore.

Result of running to far too fast, head in the clouds then burning out... ( bet this sound familiar to alot of people )

I think that sometimes when someone or a moment in time that comes into your life, even if it's only for the shortest time, then you take from that, some good things, and they will stay forever.

make your horrizons wider and feel your own personal growth.

Ready I am again to begin to share my heart and soul again, but my idea of the person I want to be with has substantially changed, but I believe on the whole, sharing time and getting to know someone then if it feels right take it slow.

Moonsissy writes

I recently fell for my friend who is also a lover of women...all except me that is.
We had some great times but alas the bad times out weighed the good once we got physical.
She just wasn't that into me and that hit home hard for me. I had to move on and walk away from the friendship. The problem is I really miss our friendship :(

fuzzled_one writes

Im sure like most women on this site there have been times when you look at your friend or someone who has just entered your life and believe them to be what you want or need. I am constantly falling for the unatainable, the straight girl im talking about...i believe it to be annoying and find myself regretting certain situations. I guess the question is what do you do? Go for it, or let the friendship be?

narnyxx writes

it wa ended for 2 years then we stared talking again yay!!!!

lesbian35 writes

it ended the friendship

kiwiflis writes

help,
im so new to all these new feelings. or at least new to acknowledging them..

kiwiflis writes

my wonderful friend and i had a brilliant night together and then the friendship was over. it was all too awkward and weird after that.

Mrs Jolie writes

isnt that what friends are for?

Oven writes

I'm waiting to find out--the long kind of wait that you toe around, testing waters and holding your breath. I have a list of reasons why it's a good idea to advance and a longer list of reasons why it's bad. Or well, not longer but certainly much weightier.

Taking baby steps seems to be working, as she's never flatly rejected me. The worse it's been is holding hands under blankets, she letting go when another person walks in the room. (I understand the implications, but she's... not comfortable being with *anyone*--boy or girl--and I'm the only *person* to have the patience for that.)

I had a friendship that wasn't directly affected by any forward romantic hopes, but slowly dissolved under the differences between us brought on by my lifestyle.

Sonotnormal writes

I was lucky.... Taking a good friendship one step further, has meant that our friendship has become stronger than ever. Although the physical and emotional connection has strengthened.
I wouldn't change anything if I had the chance to do it all over again. My friend has now become my soulmate. Our loyalty is complete and strong.
We are in an enviable position of being able to support each other through relationships and friendships that are struggling.
We do not judge each other, and fiercely protect each others feelings and vulnerabilities.
The brief physical realationship between us
has taken our friendship to a new, closer, stronger level. The trust between us is deeper, stronger and we access it often.
It could have gone so differently, but we were lucky.
I agree that it is a cruel world out there. Friends are so important. I count myself as so so lucky.

kaska writes

Actually my partner and I have shared a very open sexual relationship with one of her friends. We're both pretty open minded, with clear boundaries, and so we've been able to have the pleasurable experiences we've had without eroding our cour relationship. I think the secrecy tinged with discontent that colors outside afairs with other women is what ultimately distroys that cour for a lot of people. There are those you share that cour commitment with, and are with through your life's journy, but nobody's eyes can reasonably be closed to someone else's attractions even if it is only through a car window. In these fast paced days, and times we're all living in, the saying, "No man is an Island," has never prooven more perfetic. Love, in my opinion is no exception.

I'm glad they've posted this particular topic because I think it'll give women the safety they need to express these seemingly forbidden feelings.